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Marching in the Greek Independence Day Parade in NYC

Culture and ethnicity play a large role in my every day life.  Somehow my Greek and Armenian heritage influences my cooking and food choices, how I think and what activities I do, the colors of my surroundings, and possibly the colors and subjects I chose to paint. 

Each of us has an inherited background that makes us who we are, no matter what country we, or our ancestors, hail from.  We all carry those genes with us.  To some people, nationality is just something in our past, but to many people it’s life today.

Second and third generations of Greek, and Armenian, Americans are holding fast to their culture, jumping in it full body-they speak the language, they dance the traditional dances to the original music and instruments, revel in the newest music in the hotspots of today, eat and cook the foods, totally embracing the culture and living the life. 

We try as best we can to visit the country of our parents, grandparents, and our great-grandparents birth and immerse ourselves in that world.  It’s cool to be us.  I’ll tell you about the Greek side for now.  The Armenians have a whole other story that needs it’s own space.

A proud part of the Greek heritage is attending or marching in the Greek Independence Day parade in cities where there are large concentrations of Greeks like New York, where if you want to do something Greek you can do it any day of the week!  The war for Greek independence began March 25, 1821 when the Greeks organized to revolt from the 400 years of occupation and oppression by the barbarous Ottoman Turks.  An influential Greek writer and intellectual, Rigas Feraios, wrote a poem about national pride with the often quoted line:

“Better one hour of free life, than forty years of slavery and prison

It’s a proud moment in Greek history and every year we celebrate with various gatherings and events.  This past Sunday was the largest parade in the US on New York’s Fifth Avenue.  I’ve marched in this parade since I was a little kid attending Greek afternoon language school, a must for kids of Greek descent.  When my kids were small we marched, even had one of them in a stroller (maybe that was a no-no, but I did it anyway!)  Lately, as members of a dance group we get to march in different authentic costumes.  I love it! 

We march early in the parade in the first of three battalions of participants, from 64th Street to The Metropolitan Museum of Art at 79th Street.  Most of the Greek churches and schools participate, along with national societies from every region of Greece, university student’s societies, youth and fraternal organizations.  The whole community comes out for this event and the past three years it has been televised.

The Grand Marshalls of this year’s event was a popular NY TV newsman Ernie Anastos and United States Marine Corps Reserves Colonel Matthew Bogdanos. Many other New York dignitaries start off the parade  marching and later sit in the reviewing stands to watch. 

Politicians, our mayor, the Archbishop of the Greek Orthodox Church, and other invited guests attend.  The highlight of the parade, for me anyway, are the Evzones who are the national guards of Greece.  They stand guard in Athens at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier and they march with pride and flourish.  Each soldier stands over six feet tall and they’re dressed in the traditional Evzone uniforms, carrying their rifles, it’s just amazing to see them marching in file, coming down the avenue every year.

There were hundreds of people, but I did see some friends in the crowds while I was marching.  My kids were marching with a different group this year and I missed seeing them because we were stationed ahead of them, darn! 

Here I am in full costume with my sister, ready and waiting to go!  I’m wearing the bridal dress of the nomads of Greece, who were know as the Sarakatsani.  My sis is wearing a costume from the Peloponese peninsula.  Cool, right?

It was a sunny, but windy cold day on Sunday, but I thoroughly enjoyed myself. I can’t wait to do it again!

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Why Argue With Life? He Ain’t Listening

Did you ever get one of those days where everything you wanted to get done just doesn’t?  How about a couple of weeks of those kinds of days, all strung together?  Welcome to my world.  Somehow, every day that I’ve planned to do my thing, something else comes up to squash that lovely plan.  Every day!  It’s very annoying.  Bad enough I have my daily fist fight with resistance, now I have to wade through life to get to the other side.

Yes, Life has a way of getting in my way.  Remember that to-do list I had?  Well it’s still full of things I want to do.  The universe decided every day, for the last couple weeks, that it’s not my day for anything I want to work on.  Nope! 

“Forget that silly list”, Life said.  “Today your lower back is going to go out!  There will be no time for painting when you need to find a chiropractor!  Forget about it!  And that little trip to IKEA you keep wanting to take?  Not today!  Today you will spend 2 hours in that chiropractor’s dark, warm, noisy waiting room with a million other yapping people who are also waiting.  Isn’t that better than painting in that no-light studio of yours or trying to organize it?  Why, the time you would spend trying to decide what to paint will be put to better use in that doctor’s office, right?  Of course it would, now go.”

I could blow my whole day doing some thing I didn’t plan on because Life said so.  Who could argue with Life?  When Life tells me to do this because that just isn’t happening, I just go along with it because I’m like that.  Why fight it? 

Resistance is alot like Life, but I’m doing my best to spar with that creep by keeping a window of creativity open, however teeny weeny.  But big shot that Life is, there’s no messing with that guy.  Life is bigger than all of us put together.  When he talks, people listen!  So, okay, I do what he says, when he says it, and how he says to do it, whatever it is.  Find a chiropractor!  Yes, sir.  Attend that event!  Done.  Go to this wake today, and that wake tomorrow!  Yup.  After you do that other silly little thing you want to do for two minutes, run that big errand, now!  Aye aye sir! 

Can anyone tell Life “You’re not the boss of me”?  Life gives a holler and the blog is posted later than I want, too!

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Thought for Thursday

“Sometimes when I get up in the morning, I feel very peculiar. I feel like I’ve just got to bite a cat! I feel like if I don’t bite a cat before sundown, I’ll go crazy! But then I just take a deep breath and forget about it. That’s what is known as real maturity.”

~Snoopy, the beagle from Peanuts

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Wordless Wednesday with my Favorite Things

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Finish Something…Tomorrow

Since I went on hiatus for the Easter holiday I haven’t been able to start a new project.  Here and there I found some time to knit at least.  And even that has been hit and miss.  I was excited when I bought Arches watercolor paper to try, but I’m looking for the next thing to paint so I can work with it.  Nah!  Resistance is peeking at me from around the corner, again.  A tough cookie, that resistance.

Yesterday I went to my studio just to look at it.  I decided to rearrange my desk and worktable, again.  Flopping the areas to be a little more Feng Shui this time.  I don’t like working with my back to the door, but then I like being able to see out the window too.  Having my back to the door felt worse than not seeing outside so I moved my desk.  Now if someone is coming toward my space I’m aware.  My table is under the window and that felt comfortable.  That darn light has been out now for a couple of weeks.  Watch when I get someone in to fix it, it will light up!  The light and I have a love/hate relationship. 

Before, light on
After, light off (darn light)

Something about rearranging the space made me feel good.  I know I’ve said it before, but it’s true that cleaning and straightening gets the creativity going.  I don’t know why, but it does.  So I’m feelilng kind of good about doing some painting again.

I read Week 7 in Walking in This World this week and it made me feel like I was on the right track.  The last section in Discovering a Sense of Momentum was entitled Finish Something.  Don’t we all have half done things hanging around?  At least I do. 

Whether it’s photos that need to be in a book, or artwork left undone, there’s always something that needs finishing.  The author, Julia Cameron, writes that to keep the creativity flowing we need to finish things we’ve left off. 

It can be as mundane as cleaning the medicine cabinet or straightening up a room.  She calls it a small pat on the back and a shove forward to moving our creative energy along.  Mend the socks.  Hang the curtains you bought.  Sort your CD collection.  Those things half done help us to drag our feet.  Finish things and the universe increases our efforts behind our back. 

I have been trying to get that studio in order since I carved out that space for myself.  Reading this chapter gave me the incentive to keep going.  I planned to visit IKEA for some much needed storage for the studio.  With the push from rearranging the room the day has come and it’s…tomorrow!  Today is just too busy with some other things I need to do.  But tomorrow is D-Day and I’m really excited about it.

The chapter ends with this: “Finish something-anything!..It’s an inner order: ‘Now, start something’ finishing something says.”  Here I go!

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The Read-Aloud

On Friday morning I had the opportunity to read to a class of elementary school students in the town where we have a service station business.  In Merrick, NY, the schools host a Read-Aloud with various members of the community.  In fact, the Supervisor of the Town of Hempstead in Nassau County, New York, Kate Murray, was a reader! 

The mayor and some representatives of Congress who live in the area were invited as well, but they sent someone from their offices, so I was surprised to see the actual Town Supervisor there.  Some parents, firemen and policemen, library people, and business owners also participated in this event.  Of course, the husband was busy running the business, so I was elected to go.

We met at 8:30AM in the school library where we received the book we were to read.  The school set up coffee, bagels and such as refreshments, which of course I was definitely partaking of.  Need that coffee in the morning! 

All the readers took a big group photograph for the local newspapers before going to our classrooms. Two students from each class came to get us by holding a cut-out hand on a stick with the name of their reader hand printed on it.  I was whisked away by two, adorable first grade girls!

The book I read was titled Charlie The Caterpillar, by Dom DeLuise. I had no idea this comedian wrote books for children and was surprised at how I enjoyed reading it and looking at the illustrations.  Dom DeLuise’s writing style sounded just like him, a typical New Yorker, sort of like me!  The story was about the ugly caterpillar no one else wanted to play with.  The rabbits, mice, and other animals kept telling Charlie, Now giddattahere willya!  I read that line with my best NY accent!

It was fun reading to the class.  Later they asked me questions about  myself, who I was, where I lived, what I did.  We talked about the meaning of the story, how it’s hard to fit in sometimes and it feels bad.  The kids were so serious!  Before it was time for me to leave I asked the teacher to take a picture of me with the class.  I explained that I write a blog and they were going to be a part of it.
Brave me.

The teacher had a welcome sign for me where all the students signed their names.  It was my gift for coming to read.  Of course, the teacher was not as brave as I was and hid behind the poster!

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Photos for Friday

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Thought for Thursday

Sometimes I lie awake at night and I ask, “Why me?”, then a voice answers: “Nothing personal, your name just happened to come up.”

~Charlie Brown, Peanuts

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The Art of Self Promotion, with Help

Night Self Portrait, Oil on canvas ©1977 Dora Sislian Themelis
The process of self promotion for artist’s these days is involved.  I guess any kind of promotion takes time and effort if you really want to get somewhere.  Whether someone wants to find job, get elected to office, meet new friends or find a mate, all the information I have come across says to get yourself out there.  And where is “there”?
For some of us the hardest thing to do is go to the studio to get some creative work done, let alone promote it.  Once we’ve developed a body of work I think it’s easier to feel some detachment from it to sell it.  I know that the portrait of my son and his Greek bagpipe will never be sold because it’s too personal to let it go to a stranger. 

In a way I wish I had painted someone else so that I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable selling it.  That doesn’t mean I’m attached to some other recent work. They can go!  

Besides networking online through all the social media and this blog, I’m thinking about having a small gallery show eventually.  A local church has gallery space that many artists use and the fee for its use is a small percentage of sales.  They offer postcards as advertising and invitations, and I have a nice long list of people I know through my travels that I can invite.  It’s totally doable, but I need to have work I’m willing to sell.  That means doing.  It’s not going to happen all by itself, right? 
A helpful book I’ve been reading is I’d Rather be in the Studio, by Alyson B. Stanfield.  She is an art career coach I bumped into on facebook and she has great information on promoting one’s art career.  From reading her book I was inspired to throw myself into all the social media stuff and work it.  Little did I know I would really enjoy doing it!  She wrote in her book: don’t ask why, just do it, and I did. 

Stanfield hosts various classes online through her website ArtBizCoach.com and in person workshops.  She’s holding a workshop in Pennsylvania May 11-12 and if I lived closer I’d check it out.  On her website Alyson is hosting an online Blog Triage class, but I think the class is already full.  I believe it’s great to be able to have coaching like this because most of us artists are not business minded.  We may not know how to go about getting our product “out there” other than hooking up with a gallery and have them take all the profits, if there are any when they’re done with you. 

On Stanfield’s suggestions I had business cards made.  I carry them around in case I find an opportunity to hand them out.  During Christmas shopping I struck up a conversation with another shopper about the items for sale and how expensive they were.  This shopper remarked on my scarf and said how much she liked it. 

When I told her I’m an artist and I knit it myself she flipped!  She said, “You probably don’t have any cards with you.”  Ah, but I did.  I whipped out my business cards and handed two to her.  She was thrilled to meet an artist on the check-out line in Macy’s! 

Self-promotion for artists is possible and doable if you are willing to suck it up and forge ahead.  I know some of us are intimidated by the business end of art, but it’s not all that bad.  We just have to be ready with work, keep our eyes open for opportunities to show it, be open to talking to people, and have our information at hand if asked for it, like me.
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Not Now…What a Concept!

In the Mirror – Self Portrait, Oil on canvas (c)1977 DST


I found some time to read Week 6- Discovering a Sense of Boundaries in Walking in This World, even with the whole Easter/Lent thing.  Only one day did I completely forget the morning pages.  I know this course advocates taking a daily walk, but I’m not doing it.  It’s not winter any more, the weather has become beautiful, and I still haven’t walked.  I’ll get there, eventually.  But I feel the need to keep studying so that’s what I continue to do.  
This chapter talked about the practice of containment, finding the right “mirror”, and keeping creativity safe.  Not easy.  Keep ideas to yourself instead of talking to just anyone about the work we’re doing.  Talking to the wrong people uses our creative power and it may not be appropriate to discuss work with just anyone.  Our ideas are valuable and if you show a project too early or hear the wrong comments, we may ditch it.  Art needs a place to live, a safe container, a roof and walls for privacy, so shut the F up about what you’re working on.  Basically, that was the idea.

Besides containing our ideas, we need to protect those fledgling ideas from the outside world.  People, activities, to-do lists, can be overstimulating and the result is stress from sensory overload.  Bells were going off while I read this.  


How many times do you get a chance to read in print what was happening to you in real life?  Like I said in that previous post, Bingo! Again and again!  We need to find a way to cope with the “ceaseless inflow and outflow of distractions, distress, attention and emotional involvement” of people, places, things.  This is so true. There was way too much chaos and static in my environment and my head.  


The chapter goes on to say that artists are generous people, but we can be susceptible to others’ pain and need. We can try to pull away, but feel guilty and risk our “creative energy to ebb out of our life and into theirs”!  Is this a Wow moment or what?  “This creates exhaustion, irritation and rage.”  I could relate. Whether aware of it or not this shut down my own art working.

Setting boundaries is the focus.  Contain and protect ideas and creative energy.  Dump the bad stuff and the hangers on.  Get a secretary to shield time and space like executives do.  Well, I don’t think I’m getting a secretary any time soon, although it sounds great.  I’ve stepped away, but if I knew then what I know now I may have protected my sanity, my art and just said “Not now”.

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